They say that it's normal for a couple to fight / have disagreements, and that everything is fine if you always find a way to resolve your fights and move on. That it's unhealthy for a relationship to have unresolved disagreements that drag on and on. There is such a disagreement in my marriage that was initiated about 2 years ago and has yet to be resolved. The subject of controversy is baby barns. I think that you americans call them sheds. I remember when we used to call them sheds. I can't quite recall when the change took place but now everbody calls them baby barns. It sounds like a more glorified way of calling your shed. Although if one's baby barn looks old and dilapidated you are allowed to call it a shed again.
I will try to demonstrate both sides of the argument with the most objectivity :
I - want us to build a classic wood/shingles/nails/hammer etc baby barn. No we're not expert builders, but they come in friggin kits with instructions. Plus we have gained experience and knowledge since building our deck the first year we moved in. Also we can blackmail our families into helping and last but not least, the primary reason I'm putting my foot down on this issue is that I don't want to take a lazy shortcut. I don't want a baby barn that sticks out like a sore thumb. When I look out my patio door or when I'm sitting on my deck and gazing at the forest behind the house, I don't want [wait till you hear what he's arguing for!] sticking out in my view. I want the baby barn to add value to the house. I want it to blend in with our property.
He - wants to buy a rubbermaid plastic piece-it-together-in-an-hour lazy cop out butt ugly baby barn. "But Scott says that they even sell some that look like real baby barns, with plastic wood imitation and all!" Why doesn't he get married to Scott then ? Is Scott a baby barn expert ? (Scott is his friend/coworker/World of Warcraft buddy.) When I said that I didn't want an ugly plastic excuse for a shed sticking out on my property, he argued that we could get one that's JUST big enough for the snowblower. um. What about the lawn mower, garden hoses, sprinklers, shovels etc etc etc ? It'd be completely absurd to have a box just big enough for the snowblower. Why even bother ? Why not just put a tarp over it then ? Is he crazy ? His main argument for buying a slide & lock lazy plastic babybarn is only laziness.
Yeah, I didn't think I could remain objective.
So, what do you think ? Would you let your husband install a plastic shed on your property instead of a proper classic wood one ? Please share your thoughts. Even if you take his side. Maybe someone can think of more advantages to having a plastic shed.